Tag Archives: judgment

Decreasing Emotional Reactivity

Decreasing Emotional Reactivity by Jeff ZimmermanAfter a marriage fails, it is very easy to be emotionally reactive when interacting with a former spouse. 

Emotional hurts (both old and new), disappointments, unmet expectations, sensitivity to facial expressions, tones of voice, and even certain words or phrases can take on a lot of meaning — flooding one or both parents with strong feelings and causing lots of emotional reactivity. Read More →

Creating Boundaries to Decrease Conflict Between Parents

Creating Boundaries to Decrease Conflict Between Parents by Jeff ZimmermanConflict between divorcing parents often results from judgment — both feeling judged by the other parent, and judging the other parent yourself. It takes the form of criticism and blame around parenting style, values, decisions, and even personality traits. Judgment leads to hostile counter-criticism, blame, and often avoidance. The bucket of conflict then begins to overflow. Read More →